I am a very busy single parent of three beautiful kids. I work an eight-hour shift to try and make ends meet. I have to say it’s frustrating at times, and I don’t have anyone to listen to all my sentiments. Mom already passed away, and I don’t have many friends.
Writing is my way of expressing my thoughts – whether I’m upset, frustrated, stressed, or anything that’s too much to handle. I created my blog where I can write pretty much everything. No one has to read it. It’s just my way to de-stress. Or maybe, I’m hoping that someone out there would be able to read and understand all I’ve written.
“By writing, you put some structure and organization to those anxious feelings,” explains James Pennebaker, Ph.D. “It helps you to get past them.”
I Write On My Blog When:
- I’m tired of everything that’s happening in my life. Sometimes, we know we can be better, but we choose to stay in our situation rather than have the courage to take a risk because we’re not the only one who’s going to suffer if our decisions fail, like me for example.
I want to quit my tedious job and explore the world, but I cannot because I have responsibilities to my kids. I am in charge of their lives that’s why I just can’t do as I please. I have to wake up every day and go to work for who knows until when.
- I want something I know I can’t have. As a child, we just throw a tantrum, and our parents will give us what we want, but as an adult, I know now that we can’t have everything. We have to work hard to reach our goals, and no matter how we sit in one corner crying ourselves out, it just doesn’t work like that.
So whenever I badly want something to happen that I know wouldn’t, I write. Somehow, it relieves the burden I’m feeling, and it makes me still hopeful that I will get to write something positive one day.
Maud Purcell, LCSW wrote, “I’ll bet you write (or word process) daily. If you are like most women, you record only what you must. In an effort to change your mind and your habits, I’ll let you in on a well-kept secret: A pen coupled with paper can serve as a powerful life tool.”
- I feel sad and alone. Being a single parent is challenging. It’s exhausting in every aspect of our wellbeing. There are times I feel drained physically and psychologically. When that happens, I take a seat and turn on my computer. It brings me to a whole different place, and my imagination wanders.
I can think of a lot of stuff that makes me happy. Sometimes, I also read about other people’s blogs, and they make me realize a lot of things – we all are going through something in life, and it is up to us to keep up. In my case, I write positive things to balance the negativity I’m feeling.
- I’m depressed and anxious. When I feel down and want to do something about it, but at the same time I can’t, I write. It gives me control over my emotions that I can do something about the overwhelming thoughts I can’t handle. “I like to use gratitude journals and affirmation journals with my clients,” says Charlynn Ruan, Ph.D., a licensed clinical therapist. It’s like retraining your brain.”
I write blogs about beauty, wellness, and other inspirational matters that somehow can motivate me or anyone who will read it. If I can bring out something worthwhile out of my depression, maybe I can say it’s worth it.
Not all of us are expressive enough to vent out our feelings to anyone, or sadly, some of us just don’t have anyone. Sometimes, we have these thoughts and feelings that no one will understand. Like me for example, there are times I want to say things to the people who are causing my struggles, but then, I’d rather not because I know that some words are best unspoken.
Challenges and struggles in life are inevitable. We have to think of something we can do to help ourselves cope up. We are in charge of our wellbeing, and it is up to us to make sure we are at our optimum state. As for me, I choose writing to help me. Through it, I can get positive results out of all my battles.